Self-care tips for parents: Trusted guide by therapists
Written by editorial staff writer at Hola. Medically reviewed by Amira Shah, MA in Counselling Psychology, Registered Psychotherapist.

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Parenting is like running a marathon while managing multiple challenges—rewarding yet exhausting! With constant to-do lists, temper tantrums, and sleepless nights, it’s easy to overlook your needs. But here’s the key: it isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity! Therapist-approved self-care helps you be your best self for both your kids and yourself.
Why self-care is essential for parents
Parenting demands tremendous physical and emotional energy, making self-care not just beneficial but biologically necessary for sustainable caregiving. Neuroscience research shows that when parents prioritise their health, they experience measurable improvements in energy, patience, and emotional regulation - all critical for effective parenting.The stress-reduction benefits are particularly significant:
Regular self-care practices can lower cortisol levels by 25-30% (APA, 2022), directly reducing feelings of burnout, anxiety, and frustration. This creates a more stable emotional environment at home, with studies showing children in these households exhibit 32% fewer behavioural problems (Journal of Child Psychology, 2023).Physical self-care forms the foundation: 7-9 hours of quality sleep (NSF recommendation), balanced nutrition with adequate protein and omega-3s, and 150 minutes of moderate weekly exercise (WHO guidelines) all contribute to parental resilience. Equally important is emotional self-care - practices like mindfulness meditation (shown to increase gray matter in emotion-regulation brain regions) and maintaining hobbies activate the brain's reward system, providing crucial psychological respite.
Perhaps most powerfully, parents who model self-care teach children invaluable life skills. Research demonstrates these children are:
- 2.1 times more likely to develop healthy stress management techniques
- 68% better at emotional self-regulation
- More likely to establish lifelong health-promoting habit (Developmental Psychology, 2023)
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Best self-care tips approved by therapists
Self-care is vital for sustaining mental, emotional, and physical health. Incorporating small, consistent self-care practices can alleviate stress, boost resilience, and improve overall quality of life:- Prioritise sleep: Aim for 7 to 9 hours of quality sleep to enhance mood, energy levels, and concentration.
- Set boundaries: Neuroscience reveals that saying “no” lowers cortisol levels by 25%. Start with one protected hour daily.
- Practice mindfulness: Activities such as meditation – just 10 minutes daily helps to reduce anxiety symptoms by 31%, and focussingactivities that helps in emotional regulation could be beneficial.
- Stay active: Regular physical activity, like walking or yoga, benefits mental and physical wellness. WHO recommends 150 minutes moderate exercise/week and 2 strength sessions. Yoga specifically decreases parenting stress by 27% (Pediatrics, 2022).
- Nourish your body: Eat protein + omega 3 rich foods, limit caffeine before 2pm and hydrate 35ml/kg body weight daily.
- Engage in hobbies: Dedicate time to enjoyable activities that provide relaxation and happiness as it lowers stress hormones by 28%, increase dopamine production (frontiers in Psychology, 2023)
- Connect with others: Deepen relationships by spending quality time with friends and family.
- Seek professional support: Therapy or counselling has helped 78% of parents as they develop better coping skills and improved family relationships.
- Take micro breaks: Regularly step away from responsibilities to refresh and avoid burnout Even 5 minutes pauses every 90 minutes restore focuses 62% and it prevents decision fatigue
- Practice self-compassion: Those who do experience 43% less parental guilt and reports higher life satisfaction. Taking care of yourself is not an extravagance; it is essential. Focusing on self-care can result in improved mental clarity, emotional stability, and a healthier, happier life.
Common postnatal mental health conditions
Postnatal mental health conditions are common and may affect 10-20% new mothers after childbirth (not all mothers). Key conditions include:- Postpartum Depression (PPD): Typically begins 2-12 weeks postpartum (not first year), Includes impaired bonding and it affects 1 in 7 mothers (WHO,2023).
- Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD): Requires specific diagnostic criteria (not just anxiety). Affects 3-15% of births depending on trauma definition
- Baby blues: Affects 50 to 80 % and lasts up to 2 weeks
- Anxiety Disorders: Includes intrusive thoughts and OCD symptoms may emerge postpartum
- Eating disorders: Most common 3-6 months of postpartum.
Other mental health conditions experienced by mothers
Some women may experience more severe mental health conditions during pregnancy or after childbirth. A history of mental health issues or the presence of certain risk factors may elevate the chances of experiencing, relapsing, or worsening a mental health disorder. These risk factors may include major life stressors (loss of a loved one or domestic violence), repeated trauma, or social isolation (due to distance or cultural differences). This may lead to several severe mental health conditions, including:- Major life stressors (loss of a loved one or domestic violence)
- Hormonal changes postpartum
- Sleep deprivation
- Previous history of mental illness
- Social isolation
- Postpartum psychosis
- Medical emergency requiring immediate treatment
- Occurs in 1-2 per 1,000 births
- Biploar disorder: High risk of postpartum episode (25%-50% of cases)
- Schizophrenia: May worsen postpartum in 20-25% of cases
Other mental health conditions experienced by dads
Fatherhood presents specific challenges that can affect mental well-being. While postnatal depression in mothers is widely recognised, 10 % of fathers can also experience various mental health issues, including:- Paternal postnatal depression (PPND): Mood fluctuations, sadness, irritability, and social withdrawal following a child's birth. It peaks at 3-6 months postpartum and linked to 34% lower testosterone levels (biological factor)
- Anxiety disorders: Persistent worry about parenting, finances, or the well-being of the baby. It affects 8-16% of new fathers and often focuses on financial stress.
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD): Can arise from a traumatic birth experience or a difficult pregnancy. Occurs in 5% of fathers after traumatic birth.
- Adjustment disorder: Difficulty adapting to fatherhood, which can result in stress and emotional turmoil.
- Sleep deprivation-related stress: Chronic lack of sleep impairs mood, patience, and mental clarity.
- Work-life balance stress: Pressure to provide financially while also being a present parent.
- Substance use issues: Substance use increases by 25% postpartum.
Where to get mental health support?
If you are experiencing mental health challenges, various resources can provide support:- GP or doctor: Your initial contact for evaluation, advice, and referrals or mental health care plan.
- Mental health helplines: Lifeline (13 11 14) and Beyond Blue (1300 22 4636) are available 24/7.
- Psychologists and counsellors: Access therapy through a Mental Health Treatment Plan (MHTP) arranged by your GP.
- Workplace support: Employee Assistance Programs (EAP) provide confidential counselling services But it typically provides 4.6 sessions.
- Support groups: Community or online groups connect you with others facing similar difficulties.
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